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Being an introvert usually gets a bad rap. Our society teaches us that in order to be interesting, have friends, and be well-liked, you need to be out-going. Introverts are usually deemed weird and socially awkward. But as most of us know by now, society is often times wrong.
I fall in to the category of “extroverted introvert”. Wanna know if you’re one of us? Read below for the most common traits of an extroverted introvert:
- You despise small talk
- You often feel mentally drained after long periods of socializing
- You’re more of an extrovert around your friends and people you know, but often shy when meeting someone new
- You’re often quiet, and don’t feel the need to talk all the time
- You enjoy time alone and are naturally independent
You can learn a lot about me and other extroverted introverts based off of these 5 traits. But, if you talk to any of my friends, they would say I’m a total extrovert. Sure, in a group of my friends, I’m one of the more talkative ones. I’m outgoing and fun, just like the rest of them. I’m also a great public speaker, and hardly ever get nervous when speaking in front of an audience. But what they don’t see is how shy I am around new people, or the anxiety I get when I think about having to start a conversation with someone I barely know.
Like most introverts, I may come off as cold or rude, because I’m not going to be the first one to start the conversation. Introverts are sooo misunderstood in this way. Just because we don’t start the conversation, doesn’t mean we want to be rude people. It probably means that we are too shy, or can’t think of the words to say.
I’m truly amazed at the kind of person who always has something to say. The type of person who could hold or start a conversation with literally anyone. I often find myself running out of things to talk about, even with the people I’m really close to. I’m not quite sure how to explain that, but I’m definitely one of those people who are comfortable with the silence.
This is probably why first dates are so scary to me. Like, what could I POSSIBLY have to talk about with a stranger, one-on-one for an hour at a time?… I often find myself attracted to people who are extroverted. Whether it be a date or a friend, I enjoy having someone around who likes to talk, so I can just sit back and listen. The opposites attract saying is definitely true in this situation.
Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy socializing and being with my friends. And if I thought that the guy was worth it, I would suffer through that first date. Buuttt I enjoy my alone time even more. The thought of absolutely no plans for an entire weekend gets me more excited than I’m willing to admit.
As I get older, I’m becoming way more comfortable with who I am and how I am. This includes embracing my extroverted introverted self. In my early twenties, I used to go out literally every weekend night. Not necessarily because I wanted to, but because I felt I HAD to, to not let me friends down. I played along, and was super social every time. But now, I (hardly) feel guilty when I don’t accept the invite, and instead, stay in bed watching reruns of The O.C. on Hulu.
As somewhat of an introvert, I need more alone time than most. I love that about myself. That I know myself well enough to know when I need to rest and recharge, and how often. So, to all you extroverted introverts out there, I see you. And I get you. Can anyone else relate?? Are you more of an extrovert or an introvert? Sound off below!
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